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What Is Dating Violence?
Using the National FCCLA Program, STOP the Violence, Ashley Smith and Lupe Curiel have completed a project focusing on preventing dating violence that will be shared at the District 5 STAR Events later in January. Here is a summary of their project.
Dating violence includes any behavior by a dating partner that
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is used to manipulate
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Is used to gain control
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Is used to gain power over someone
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makes a person feel bad about himself or herself or other people who are close to this person (such as friends or family)
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Makes a person afraid of his or her boyfriend or girlfriend
Abusive behaviors may include the following:
Physically Abusive: hitting, pinching, shaking, throwing things, scratching, choking, shoving, pushing, using a weapon, biting, threatening, spitting, pulling hair
Mentally/Emotionally Abusive: ignoring a date’s feelings, insulting a date’s beliefs or values, acting in an intimidating way, using sexually derogatory names, calling a date names, isolating a date from others, driving reckless to scare a date, displaying inappropriate anger, damaging personal property, scaring a date, keeping a date from leaving, putting down family and friends, humiliating a date in public or private, telling lies, purposefully injuring an animal, threatening to hurt oneself
Sexually Abusive: forcing a date to have sex or forcing a date to do other sexual things he or she doesn’t want to do
Guidelines for Helping People Who Are Being Abused
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Believe your friends’ story
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Make sure they’re safe
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Let them know they don’t deserve to be abused
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Ask them a lot of questions to get them to think about the problem
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Ask them what their options are and what they can do (stay, leave, talk to partner, or get advice from a professional)
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Let them know that abuse almost always gets worse in a relationship if it is ignored. If the abuse is going to stop, then the person being abused has to be willing to take actions to end it.
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Encourage them to seek help. Use resources available in your community or area as well as personal resources.
Source: Safe Dates Curriculum